Sexleben: 19 Tipps für mehr Abwechslung in langen Beziehungen

Refresh sex life - 7 ideas for hot love nights

In long-term partnerships, different ideas are often needed to freshen up sex life. Some ideas can be implemented very quickly and others have a longer implementation phase, but these ideas will improve your sex life in the long term. You get 7 hot ideas for sparkling love nights.

  1. Rekindle curiosity

The most important quality to refresh your sex life is to be curious again. Curious about the sex between you as a couple and curious about yourself and your sexuality.

You can observe your partner with a look full of curiosity. People change from day to day. In the same way, sexuality changes again and again. Your partner may react differently to your touch than at the beginning of the relationship. Perhaps you will discover new aspects of your partner's sexuality that you have not noticed before. If you remain curious about how your partner behaves in sexuality, you can discover something new about him*her and come up with new ideas.

You can also become curious about yourself and your sexuality again. You can ask yourself the following questions: How do you behave during shared sexuality. How does your body react to touch? Do you move in sexuality? how is your breathing What feelings does the touch of your partner trigger in you?

You can try out what changes when you change your tension in your body, change your breathing or try to move more in your sexuality. Small changes can produce large differences in perception.

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  1. Introduce something new into sexuality

When you bring something new to sexuality, curiosity is often reawakened. Be it a new sex position, a new place or a new sex toy or a Date Box When you're alone or the two of you are talking about what new things you can bring to sexuality, just talking about it makes you want to have sex.

For example, you can look at the different date boxes together and talk about which box appeals to you and why. The date boxes also give you the opportunity to read up on a new sexual topic and have the most important utensils ready. Maybe you have been playing with the idea of trying Tantra for a long time. In the  Tantra Box you will find all the instructions and utensils for a successful yoni and lingam massage.

  1. Integrate eroticism into life

In order to refresh your love life together, it is essential that you rekindle your desire for sexuality. In everyday life we often have little to do with eroticism and sexuality. That's why you should consciously make sure that you don't forget your sexuality in the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Occasionally hot news between the partner can increase the joy of seeing you again. Eroticism can also be integrated into life by reading erotic books, listening to erotic stories or watching erotic films. Watching a movie together with your partner, such as the classic 50 Shades of Grey, which has many BDSM elements, is a great way to discuss the movie afterwards and come up with new ideas.

It can also be very beneficial for eroticism if you allow yourself more breaks in everyday life. Because many people have so much to do in everyday life that the energy for sex is missing. If you want to refresh your sex life, you need a daily routine in which sex also finds place.

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  1. Sex date evenings

In order to create space in his everyday life, we recommend for sexuality sex date nights. You can choose a night where being your couple comes first. Many people think that sex has to be spontaneous. Spontaneous sex may be very nice and sometimes successful, but it is often the case that at the end of the day there is no time or energy left for sex.

That is why it is recommended to consciously take the time for sexuality. If that's too stressful for you and you feel pressured to have sex that night, it's a good idea to keep the night open. Going on a date where the focus is on you as a couple. In which there are no talks about the jam, the children or the household. But a date, like at the beginning of your partnership.

Another advantage of the sex date evening is that you can look forward to the date beforehand. You can prepare and think about what you want to do with your sweetheart or what sexy underwear you want to wear.

  1. Solo-Sex

With solo sex, you can pay attention to how it feels when you caress, touch, or massage yourself. You can involve the whole body and if you feel like it explore your intimate areas.

Everyone practices solo sex differently, the focus is on having fun and being curious about yourself. Do what gives you pleasure and fun and take your time to rediscover yourself. This allows you to discover something new about yourself and your sexuality and to bring it into the couple's sexuality.

If you want to freshen up your sex life, you can also observe each other having solo sex. It can be arousing and exciting as your partner touches himself/herself.

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  1. Reconnect with the body

In our society we are very busy in our heads. When it comes to sexuality, however, it is of great advantage if you feel your body well. Doing a body scan or body meditation will help you become more aware of your body. You can also take a bath and feel how the water feels on your skin.

In order to reconnect better with your body in the long term, it is advisable to take short sensory breaks in everyday life. You can pause, breathe deeply and feel your body.

If you also consciously feel and touch your vulva and vagina again and again in your everyday life, you promote your connection to your vulva and vagina. Through a better connection to your sexual organs you can bring more joy, pleasure and sensuality into your sexuality. Nothing boosts your sex life more than when you have more fun, excitement, pleasure and enjoyment during sex.

  1. Boredom

Yes, you read that right, to refresh your sex life, boredom is recommended. It's important that you get bored together, without distractions. Cell phones and televisions keep us busy. However, if all the distractions go away and you consciously devote yourself to your partner, you will definitely come up with things that you can do together. It is essential to take your time and clear away all distractions.

It is best to go into action as soon as possible to refresh your sex life. Get active and dare to talk about your fantasies and bring something new into your shared sexuality. 

If you want to refresh your sex life, our date boxes are perfect to bring new momentum into your love life and get to know new sides of each other. 

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