What about your seduction skills? The art of erotic seduction is not easy. But it's worth it: because you can expect exciting sex beyond the 08/15 routine in bed. We have 24 exclusively compiled seduction tips that you can use to learn how to really seduce your partner and bring them into sexual ecstasy.
What does seduction depend on?
Seducing your sweetheart is a unique way to get him going and experience sexual ecstasy yourself at the same time. The key in the art of seduction is balance. Lead him to the top and then pause - but don't let it get to the point where it becomes frustrating for either of you.
If you use the following 24 tips to seduce your partner, you'll be rewarded with sexual ecstasy and intense orgasms.
24 tips for the art of erotic seduction
Feel free to adapt these tips to your preferences and personality. Consider them as inspiration for the game of seduction to seduce your partner, and do not treat them as rigid rules.
1. Send naughty messages
Your cell phone is an easy way to seduce - and there are many techniques you can try. You can send a cheeky message when you're at the grocery store or when your honey is at work. Your messages could be more of the innocent variety, alluding to what you're thinking about, or more explicit.
You could also send a photo or video to turn him on. It'll drive him crazy that you're so far away right now, but he'll snack on you when he finally walks in the door after work. Just be careful that someone else doesn't see the messages when you seduce your partner with your text messages.
2. Touch yourself - but don't let yourself be touched
Once you master this tip, you'll know how to skillfully seduce and also tease a bit at the same time. It works great as foreplay when you're already undressed. You can also incorporate it into domination games when you tie up your sweetheart so you can't physically touch each other.
The sight of you touching yourself and the knowledge that he can't do the same - or even touch himself - is one of the most effective ways to seduce. Impress it on him by reminding him that he can't touch you. You can do this by saying things like, "Don't you wish you could do more than just look?"
Of course, you should "give in" and let him touch you after a while...if he's been good!
3. Seduce on the phone (until phone sex)
If you are not in the same place as your partner, you can still do some naughty seduction. All you need is a phone! When you're on the phone, you can say how much you miss him and that you want him there. You could allude to what you do when you think about him or even what you are doing. Knowing that he can't be there to see and touch you will certainly annoy him. However - the seduction could then end quickly if it leads to hot phone sex.
Phone sex is a great way to stay sexually intimate with your partner, even if you are in a long distance relationship. Even if you don't get naked on the other end of the line, a little moaning and heavy breathing can get his blood pumping. It's also a great way to scout out the situation for real phone sex.
And when you're ready to pull out all the stops and seduce him on the phone, you can take out your favorite toy or just use your hand and let your partner know what you're doing. Be as explicit as you like when describing what you're doing ... or what you want to do or something you've done.
Take turns telling each other a story and let the fact that he/she hears you turn you on and come even more intensely.
4. Accidentally "Flash" something
When you live with your partner, you have many opportunities to seduce. This also applies to getting dressed and undressed: it's often done hastily, especially if you're running late. But slow it down or at least do it in such a way that you can see a little bit of your skin.
Exaggerate your movements, slide your hand over your thigh as you adjust your skirt or stockings, and do anything else that draws attention to yourself. You don't even have to make eye contact; although it could certainly increase the sexual tension of the moment.
But it can still be just as powerful if you pretend you didn't "notice" what he saw. Your sweetheart will feel like he's caught a little "sneak peek."
5. Play with your words
Brush up on your wordplay skills, because clearly ambiguous puns and euphemisms are a guaranteed surefire way to seduce. If you can slip something suggestive into your conversation in a less obvious way, all the better.
You don't have to be a poet to seduce with words. However, you can certainly discover the hot sizzle when the two of you exchange witty, hot banter.
6. Play with Ice
Involve all senses in your art of seduction - for example, by playing with the temperatures. Just take an ice cube with you during your next foreplay! When you brush frozen ice over your skin so that the ice melts into rivulets and runs down your skin, you're seducing in all the right ways. It may feel cool, but it definitely gets hot.
Let the ice run down over your jaw, neck, and between your breasts. You can also run it along your panty line or into your panties when seducing before sex.
Put the ice cream in your mouth to finish the game. When your mouth is still cool, devote your mouth to his member or her vulva for oral sex your partner won't soon forget!
7. Press against him
This is something like the opposite of the second tip. Instead of saying, "Hands off!" you can show surprising closeness by pressing up against him in a public place.
Maybe you walk past him in a crowded room or hallway. Or you could bend down to reach something in the store. Let your hand, breasts, or butt brush against him very lightly for a moment. No one else will notice, but he definitely will!
8. Draw attention to your mouth with a lollipop
Now it's getting really cliché. But all of us have seen the movies where people suck on a lollipop, eat a banana or just drink from a straw. It seems to drive the opposite sex crazy. The other won't be able to stop thinking about what you could do with your mouth.... You don't like the lollipop idea? That's okay. We have plenty of other seductive ideas.
Your mouth is definitely one of the sexiest parts of your body. You can also draw attention to your mouth, for example, by biting your lip, which most people love, or circling your lips with your tongue. You can even trace your lip with your finger or another object if you like.
9. Feet
There's something about feet that resonates with all of us. Maybe it's because feet can be so sensitive and erotic, but you can still seduce without being overly sexual. And don't worry: if you think it's good, you don't directly have a foot fetish.
Foot fetish is a simple game. Rub your shoe against the side of his/her foot. Drop your shoe when you're sitting together at a desk or table, and brush your foot against his/her pant legs. You can also stroke your foot under his/her pant leg up to his/her shin.
You can also try playing footsie with different shoes and socks. Socks feel different than nylons or bare feet. If you really dare, you can lift your leg and massage his best part from outside through the pants.
10. Tickling is allowed!
Tickling is an enticing combination of physical closeness through the placement of your hands, and the control and evocation of reactions that are difficult to control. Not everyone likes being tickled, so consider what you know about your partner before teasing in this way. If he's okay with it, proceed to physically seduce him.
Extra tip: You can also use a feather tickler to tickle with very gentle touches.
11. Make out when it's unexpected
If you always take the passive role in the bedroom, you can change things up and seduce by taking the lead. Start making out unexpectedly.
Wait until your sweetheart is doing something he doesn't mind being interrupted, like watching TV, before you get close. For example, you can start with slow kisses, wrapping your arms around his neck and gently stroking.
12. Seduce with a striptease
The ultimate form to seduce in a sensual way is the striptease. It even has "tease" - English for seduce - in its name! The art of striptease is all about being seductive and in contact with your body. You can do this by slowly taking off your clothes and moving in a way that gets you all revved up.
13. Do not kiss
The next time you want to seduce, make every effort as you would to prepare for a kiss. Then stop. You can either put a finger between your lips or just press your lips lightly against his without actually kissing him.
Extra idea: make a soft, satisfied sound, almost like a moan, when you really want to physically tease!
14. Shower together
One of the best things about showering as a couple is how hot things can get, both figuratively and literally. In fact, showering as a couple is not only lovely to soap each other up and enjoy the warm splash of water together, but also a super way to seduce: At the mutual sight of your bodies when you soap each other's hair, or maybe you gently push away attempts to touch your body. For more inspiration for a hot shower, check out our Oral Total Box!
15. Plays a game of strip poker
There's something funny about the classic strip poker game because you're not really playing it to win. Instead, you're playing to get a chance to show off your body and see some of his or hers. Don't worry if you're not a poker fan. There are plenty of games that you can quickly turn into sexy foreplay.
16. Increase the desire
One of the easiest ways to seduce someone is to leave the other person wanting more. Specifically, this could mean making out, but then leaving (or asking for it) before anything else can happen.
17. Dress seductively
There are many ways to seduce with your clothes, and you don't have to have a specific body type to achieve this! All you have to do is:- Emphasize the parts of the body that you know your sweetheart likes. If you're not sure, breasts and butt are a good place to start. But some people love bellies, thighs, or other body parts!
- Let a little something peek out. Maybe it's a bra strap or some hot lingerie.
- Leave something out. People often go crazy when they notice that their partners are not wearing any underwear. So whisper that tantalizing tidbit in his or her ear when you're in a public place and watch how they or react! Consider discreetly flashing something so he can see what you've gone without.
- Wear anything that makes you feel strong and hot, even if it's unconventional. It will show in your behavior!
18. Use your body to tease
When you are in the same place with your sweetheart, you have many opportunities to seduce in bed. Even before you undress, you can breathe on your skin. If you open your mouth wide, your breath will be warmer, while pursing your lips, it will cool down. Try this on your chest, neck, or ear - loud erogenous zones - while you whisper into it.
After you've undressed, but before sex, try rubbing your vulva against him. Chances are, this will feel pretty good to you. You may even come if you get the right clitoral stimulation!
Finally, pull back when he or she wants to penetrate you, or push his body away from yours. You could take this time to return to kissing or other activities, or just to survey his or her body.
19. Hold your hand on him
It is common knowledge that people often touch each other on the arm to create closeness. But this touch can be used to seduce a partner, even if you've long since moved beyond flirting. For example, you could gently (or not so gently) slap his/her butt if he/she is being "naughty." For more tips on spanking, check out our spanking date guide!
Alternatively, you can consider grazing or clasping the butt as you pass each other. If you're a fan of a certain part of the body, touching it as you walk by can be a real turn-on!
20. Sensual massage
A sensual massage is a great way to relax and get in the mood for sex while you connect. This doesn't have to lead to anything, of course. But if you want to seduce, you can give a sensual massage where you get close to his penis or her vulva.... but never too close. You can also take a peek at his or her intimate area and let him know where your thoughts are, even if your hands haven't made it there yet. Don't be surprised if he takes charge of your hands or even pulls you on top of him.
For more info on a sensual penis or yoni massage, check out our Tantra Date Box!
21. Use your eyes
While many of our tips for seduction are about touch, you don't have to touch someone to seduce them. Instead, you can simply use your eyes. Make prolonged eye contact to communicate your interest. You can give a passionate look, smile, or even raise your eyebrows - whatever message you want to send!
Bonus: After you've gotten the attention, you can direct eye contact by running your finger from his neck to your collarbone or drawing attention to your mouth. Of course, he might break eye contact in the process, but it's worth it when it comes to the art of seduction.
22. Pull your voice in
Do you know how sexy it is when you lower your voice a little in bed, even if you're just tired? If you don't have a sexy voice of your own (or don't think you do) it's time to find it. You can experiment with lowering the pitch of your own voice or just speaking in hushed tones. If you use this voice during lovemaking, you may even be able to get your lover revved up outside of the bedroom by using this voice (this is also called conditioning).
23. Seduce him or her, literally
A great way to seduce your partner in an erotic way is to do it verbally. When you're teasing and sassy, you show that you're interested but that he doesn't have all the power, and on top of that, you show that you're fun and confident. Seduction is about being playful and joking, but not insulting him.
24. Keep it light
One way to seduce is to stimulate the other person, but keep it light enough that they don't orgasm yet. A feather-light touch, while you're stroking or giving oral sex, is a great way to do that. Instead of going fast or rough, be gentle. Stroke instead. When he gets to the point where he desperately needs more, you'll know you've done a good job!
This technique is also called edging - almost coming to climax and then pulling out. Fancy trying this out for yourself? Check out our Edging Date Box for tips & tricks.
Golden rules for the art of seduction
Although the main concepts of erotic seduction are probably clear to you by now, it's worth mentioning them again. Follow these golden rules to avoid sexual frustration:
- Seduction is supposed to be fun. The movies often portray seduction as something that looks incredibly serious and over-the-top. But it doesn't usually happen that way. Remember to have fun, laugh and smile, and don't get too caught up in what seduction should look or sound like. Have fun and enjoy it!
- Seducing, like any interaction, can be a little awkward. That's okay. Laugh at yourself and with your partner
- Seducing is fun, but don't overdo it. If you just seduce all the time, your partner might get bored or annoyed. For this reason, sometimes it is bad to be known as an erotic seductress. This brings us to our next point.
- Seducing is two steps forward and one step back. You get a little closer, then you pull away or... You pull away before you get a little closer.
- To seduce erotically is to keep your counterpart guessing. When your counterpart doesn't know what's coming, it makes things more exciting. Don't assume that your counterpart will never want to be seduced again, just because you've already put yourself out there!
- Use things that will help you with the seduction. If you can't see each other because of work, school, or other commitments, make it a fun seduction. You can even incorporate these little obstacles into your dirty talk by saying something like, "I'd love to fuck you if only I didn't have to work right now."
- Not every time is the right time to seduce. Sometimes other concerns take precedence, whether it's responsibilities or even a stomachache. And just because the one-time seduction didn't get the reaction you wanted doesn't mean you shouldn't keep trying!
Fancy more seduction? Tips & tricks on how to drive your partner to sexual ecstasy can be found in our Edging Date Box.
Conclusion:
With these golden rules to the art of erotic seduction and the specific tips above for seducing your partner, you'll have plenty of ideas to try. Nice side effect: knowing how much you can turn him on and make him want you is a great way to feel confident and sexy.
So keep practicing until you find the right balance. Remember that seduction should be fun for you too and can lead to super good sex away from your standard routine in bed. That's why erotic seduction works so well as foreplay when you're a little more naughty!
