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Femdom: Guide to Female Dominance

Dominant women exert a strong fascination. The cliché of the successful manager who sometimes wants to give himself over to a strict mistress persists. And there are numerous women who are attracted to the dominant role. As a dominatrix, you take care of that need for submission. This article was written in collaboration with dominatrix Nika Macht, and is intended to provide inspiration for getting started with the game of female dominance.

 

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Are women more dominant or submissive?

If we look at it very pragmatically, the dominant role is fundamentally alien to us women. Evolutionarily, the male made the fire, provided for reproduction, hunted and cared for us while we tended the hut/cave and cared for the children. One thing that's often forgotten, though, was the dynamic between the women.

In the old days there were no huts and the women were together every day, cooking together, disassembling dead animals or weaving baskets.

Of course, nowadays it's not as extreme as it used to be (although southern cultures still have it in a different form), but the mindset is still in us, and we're often reminded to please keep it that way, but fortunately it's softening more and more in most countries around the world. Subliminally it goes even further: more and more men discover their submissive vein, want to be allowed to let go sometimes and are happy when they don't have to decide. At this point, two worlds collide: on the one hand, the woman's ignorance of how she should appear and act in a dominant manner, and on the other hand, the understanding that there are men who actually want to be dominated - physically and psychologically. The first is difficult for many, because "you don't hit other people." The second is not necessarily easier to understand, because "what kind of man is that who likes to be called pussy or something like that?"

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Maybe I'm a little extreme, but during my time as a dominatrix, I subtly recognized more and more clearly the power that exists among women. Many women come to me for coaching with the words: "I feel that there is something dominant in me, but I can't grasp it."

Why am I telling you this sentence?

To tell you that you are not alone in your possible doubts. As mentioned at the beginning, it's simply human that you may be a bit overwhelmed with the task. You feel that the attraction is there, but the implementation is still so difficult. We didn't sit together in the cave back then for nothing. Who knows, maybe our ancestresses didn't just talk about how best to use berries - maybe they realized back then that they could accomplish a lot together, even if each had to go her own way.

FemDom: a journey of discovery begins

Maybe it helps you that I am convinced that you will discover the dominatrix in you. I have also discovered it in me and developed my very own way to let it come out. I invite you to go this way with me, your way - if you get involved, everything else will follow. And now dig in and treat yourself to your queenly appearance.

You have already taken the first step, you want to learn more about your dominance and include it in your love play. So loosen up, we know how to help you. First, the basics: Being a dominatrix has more to do with yourself than just cracking a whip, it's in your walk, your posture and your demeanor. And especially in times that might want to take away our femininity or make us feel insecure, it's good to know that we have a feminine-dominant side that guides us and helps us live our fem-dom fantasies. 

 

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When we think of dominatrix, images of women in short leather skirts with red lips and severe hairstyles often spring to mind. Which clothes you feel dominant in should only be part of the act, clichés and no longer limits.

We do not want to tell you too much here, but if you want to get to know your dominant side, we have our Domina-Box ready for you. Developed with the dominatrix Nika Macht you will learn tips and tricks in the date guide, how to get into the mindset of the dominatrix, as well as a scenario to play! In addition, as always, there are the matching toys and accessories.

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