According to surveys, three out of four women already have at least once their climax faked and some men, too, have not always been honest in this regard. But why do people fake their orgasm? We'll tell you the reasons behind it and also how you can tell the acting from the body language.
WOMEN FAKE ORGASM MORE OFTEN THAN MEN DO
According to statistics, women are more likely to fake their climax. Here it is not so easy to recognize the fake. However, there are some signs of an orgasm: These include, for example, vaginal contractions, an increased heart rate or hardening of the nipples - however, these signs are not the same for everyone.
In theory, men can fake their orgasm just like women. Depending on the sex practice, the probability that they will be caught is quite high. When having sex without Condom the partner will definitely notice if the ejaculation is missing. If you use a condom, things are more difficult. If he throws away the condom without you being able to take a look at it first, no one but he knows if there was sperm in it!
To be on the safe side, you should ask your partner after sex - open communication is essential when it comes to sexuality, so that both partners get their money's worth.
4 REASONS FOR A FAKE ORGASM
#1: FEAR THAT IT WILL TAKE TOO LONG
One of the most common reasons is the fear that the satisfaction will take too long for the partner. For example, some women cannot climax through vaginae penetration and need additional stimulation through fingers, sex toys or cunnilingus. The fear that the partner is only acting out of kindness and that the road to climax is too long for him/her means that women sometimes fake climax.
If you are one of these people, always remember: Sex is about the satisfaction of everyone involved. If your orgasm lasts a little longer, that's totally okay. Talk about it and find ways for both of you to climax. And your partner will definitely take a little more time for you...
#2: INSECURITY ABOUT YOUR SEXUALITY
Uncertainty about one's own sexuality can also be a reason why women in particular sometimes fake an orgasm. Many of them know exactly what they are into, but don't dare to bring it up. In order to satisfy the other partner, the orgasm is then faked.
Even if it's not always easy to talk openly about sexual needs: You don't have to be ashamed and you are allowed to openly communicate your wishes to your partner.
#3: THE SEX IS NOT GREAT
Selfless motives are not always the reason for a fake climax. Sometimes the sex just isn't as good as hoped. Some people use the fake climax to end the sex faster.
We like to repeat ourselves here: Sex should be fun for both of you and you should always be able to communicate openly if something bothers you. And by the way, you have the right to stop whenever you want.
#4: MEET SUPPOSED EXPECTATIONS
Some people believe that sexual talent consists in acting as wildly and passionately as in porn. But real sex doesn't always look like it does in the movies, and you don't have to moan or fake multiple orgasms to live up to your partner's (and your own) expectations!
Feminists are less likely to fake their orgasms
Interestingly, the scientists of the study also asked their subjects about their feminist world view. It turned out that confessing feminists were much less likely to engage in orgiastic shows than women who represented less feminist points of view.
"This could be because these women were more reluctant to communicate openly and honestly when it comes to sex, sexual preferences, and orgasm difficulties," the study said.
THIS IS WHY YOU SHOULD NOT FAKE YOUR ORGASM
#1: SEX SHOULD BE FUN
Yes, we're repeating ourselves, but this is the most important reason of all: if you want to have an orgasm during sex, you should get it!
Your sex life should be satisfying in the truest sense of the word, so dare and talk about what you want.
#2: YOUR COUNTERPART THINKS HE OR SHE IS DOING EVERYTHING RIGHT
If you tell your sweetheart again and again through your suggest behavior that he drives you crazy, he sees no reason to change anything - and then the lack of orgasm will probably not change. In addition, the trust between you can get a crack if you then openly tell him at some point that your orgasms were not real.
#3: YOU ARE DECEIVING YOURSELF
Whether you want to end sex faster with a fake orgasm or you just don't want to hurt him, with a fake orgasm you are only lying to yourself. You are taking away the chance to change something about your sex life so that you can get your money's worth too.
If you're one of those people who regularly fake orgasms, our advice is: Find out what you enjoy about sex and talk about it! Always remember, you have the right to a fulfilled sex life - and to a real orgasm!
Harris, E. et al (2019): Beliefs About Gender Predict Faking Orgasm in Heterosexual Women