Sex Toy Guide for Beginners: Which sex toy suits me?

Sex toys can heat up your love life when your love life has fallen into a bit of a rut. But which sex toys are suitable for beginners? And what is there to consider in sex toys for beginners? We give an overview to discover the best sex toys for beginners and find the best sex toy for you. 

You probably remember your first sex toy. Hidden away in a drawer under the sheets. Not exactly something you'll proudly tell your grandchildren about, but it has a place in your memories. The first orgasm for the rest of your life. If you don't have that memory, don't worry: It's never too late to join the Sexual Wellness Revolution! The liberalization of our sex lives in recent years hasn't stopped at sex toys, and the possibilities are endless.

What are the different types of sex toys? 

Most women are more likely to climax when the clitoris is specifically stimulated. Penetration, on the other hand, is often less effective. Just as there are many different types of orgasms, there are also many different sex toys. This can be overwhelming at first. But don't worry, here are our 4 sex toys for beginners to get you started:

1. Vibrators

Vibrators are a perfect starting point for all sex toy newbies. For beginners, we recommend the clitoris-stimulating gentle lay-on vibrators. These are discreet little vibrators to place on the clitoris that will leave you floating on cloud nine for hours. Ideally, the vibration is not directly selected too strongly. In addition, the vibrator should not have too many functions, so better not to vibrate and suck at the same time, that could be too much in the beginning.

Just go in gently and increase the intensity as needed. Lay-on vibrators are also among the more affordable toys on the market, so you don't have to spend a small fortune on this first sex toy. Many also come with adjustable speeds and power settings. Just take control - you'll love it.

2. Dildos

Dildos come in a whole range of different shapes and sizes. Mostly penis-shaped, for obvious reasons. But still, some are a little more realistic than others. The ideal first dildo for a sex toy beginner depends on how into the idea you are. The veiny textures provide extra stimulation, but so do the ridges on the more subtle designs. 

Glass dildos are a special alternative to realistic ones: a plain glass dildo with an exciting texture is perfect for sensual intimate massages. Or you can choose a curved glass dildo that will let you reach every intimate nook and cranny It's all about personal preferences, so adjust them and see what you like. Just don't forget to use lots of lube first!

3. Rabbit Vibratoren

It wouldn't be a guide for sex toy beginners without mentioning the Rabbit Vibrator. Oh yes, the Rabbit vibrator is for the more experimental! This vibrator is a combination of a vibrating dildo and a head with rabbit ears; So you still get deep penetration, but also terrific clitoral stimulation. It's really the best of both worlds and can give you incredible orgasms.

Sex Toys For Two

You don't have to play alone when it comes to sex toys. Meanwhile, there are also many sex toys for fun in pairs. Take a look at the world of sex toys for couples - because fun shared is fun doubled!

Penis Ring

Couple Vibrator

Massage Stick Vibrators

Massagers that can be used for the clitoris, breasts, and testicles, but also the whole body are great sex toys for beginners. Especially for foreplay, a massage wand vibrator is great. With a little massage oil, you can relax any tension with him and can set yourself up for a nice evening. Here, too, it's best to first feel your way carefully and see what your partner likes.

The best beginner sex toys for men

Toys or vibrators are not only something for women, but also for men. Here we are talking not only about anal use (plugs, strap-ons, dildos/vibrators). Stimulation of the prostate is certainly the first thing that comes to mind for one or the other, but there are also some masturbators for men. So the use of toys can also pay off for the man.

Do's and Don'ts with sex toys

As with anything that has to do with your body, certain rules should be followed so that you are not only safe but also have a good time. But it's not that complicated either, we've put together some simple do's and don'ts for you.

Do’s:

• Make sure you're using the right lube. For silicone toys, avoid silicone or oil-based lubes, as they will stick to the material and begin to erode the surface of your toy. Your safest option is water-based lube.
• Use a condom when playing with a partner. If you're using sex toys in a new relationship, fingers, penis, and toys all need their own condoms. For solo play, you don't necessarily need a condom as long as you keep the toy clean.
• Wash your toys after every use. If you really want to play it safe and avoid spreading harmful bacteria, you should also wash them before each use.

Don’ts:

• DO NOT share sex toys with others. Penis rings or double dildos are a given - you must share them to some degree - but you should never use a vibrator or dildo and give it to someone else, whether you cleaned it or not.
• DO NOT use toys in places for which the toy is not intended. This rule mainly applies to anal play; you should never use a sex toy on your anus that doesn't have a bottom on display, or you run the risk of losing it! That would be quite an embarrassing trip to the GP....!

DO NOT throw your sex toy in a drawer until the next time you use it. Drawers can hold all kinds of dust, hair, food crumbs, and bacteria. It's best to either put the sex toy in a cloth (or cloth bag, if you have one) or in its original packaging.

How often should I change sex toys?

If you keep your toys clean and in excellent condition, your sex toys will give you many years of pleasure and enjoyment. Knowing when it's time for a replacement can really be discussed with common sense. If the toy has noticeable damage, the batteries have leaked, or a non-waterproof toy has suffered water damage, it may be time to treat yourself to a new one. As if you needed another excuse ;)

Quality pays off - the material for sex toys 

Many toys are no longer just made of plastic, but also silicone. Each material has its own advantages and disadvantages. Silicone toys warm up quickly and feel very soft and comfortable on the skin. Plastic toys are better for targeted stimulation due to their hardness, etc.

Especially when using silicone toys, you should make sure beforehand that you do not have a silicone allergy. We have a very important tip for you: When it comes to sex toys, it's better to invest in high quality. Cheap certainly does not mean bad, but these toys come in very sensitive body regions and there should be no surprises.

Ask yourself these 5 questions before buying sex toys: 

• How discreet should your toy be? The volume can play a role especially if you want to try something more daring or if there are children in the house.
• How strong should the toy be? Should it have adjustable levels or just one?
• Rechargeable battery or batteries? Both can have their advantages. However, keep in mind that toys with batteries are usually a bit more expensive.
• Should your toy be waterproof? Pay close attention to whether the toy is waterproof, i.e. can be taken into the bathtub, or whether it is waterproof in the sense of "it can get a little wet".
• In addition, always inform yourself beforehand about how you can best clean your toy.

Hopefully, you're feeling ready now and can't wait to get your hands on a brand-new sex toy. We know you're dying to dive in headfirst, but take your time, browse through our sex toy assortment, and find a toy that's really just right for you. We hope you have fun experimenting and trying them out!