Do you feel like a role reversal with your partner? Or as a lesbian couple, you would also like to please each other once by swinging the hips with the dildo/vibrator? Then you need a strap-on! Here we give you a beginner's guide for pegging and present you with 15 strap-on models that are suitable for beginners as well as for advanced peggers.
What is a strap-on?
A strap-on is a strap-on dildo that is usually fastened around the waist with a belt or strap. These straps are also called harnesses. Sex with strap-ons is referred to as pegging. The word pegging is derived from the English verb "to peg" and is a neologism introduced in 2001 and coined by American columnist Dan Savage. Alternatively, the term "bend-over boyfriend," or "BOB" for short, is also used in English. Pegging can take place between same-sex couples (woman & woman) or, as well as between heterosexuals. In this case, the man is the passive part and the woman is the active part. So it's a classic role reversal. In lesbian couples, the advantage is that each can take the active part once. A strap-on is also a popular toy for trans men who have not yet had surgical gender reassignment.
The topic of female-to-male pegging has long been taboo but is slowly becoming more socially acceptable. Many men have a desire for female dominance and to be able to give themselves completely for once. This is a lot about what goes on in the head. Unlike women, however, men also benefit from prostate stimulation during anal penetration. It can also be very exciting for women to put themselves in the dominant role for once, even if she does not experience any direct clitoral or vaginal stimulation herself during a simple strap-on.
What types of strap-ons are there?
Meanwhile, there are the most diverse designs of strap-ons. The dildos and vibrators used come in a wide variety of shapes and sizes. Some are modeled after real penises, while others are not. Strap-on dildos, which are bent slightly upwards at the front just like G-spot dildos or vibrators, stimulate the male prostate most effectively. It is only important that there is a wide foot part, for example, a suction foot, as most strap-ons work with ring holders through which the penis substitute must not slip. In other models, the penis attachments are also permanently integrated. There are also strapless "strap-ons," which are double-ended dildos with one end angled to be inserted into the active partner. However, these require very strong vaginal muscles (trainable with love balls, among other things) because that's the only way to keep the toy in place.
Another variant is Strap-Ons, which were produced explicitly for men and are hollow inside. These are useful if the man is struggling with erection problems or premature ejaculation. Alternatively, you can also put a vibration unit inside - some strap-ons have special pockets for this purpose. This way, the active part also has more stimulation. If that's not enough, there are also strap-on dildos that have an additional one or two dildos in the panty part. Another variant is a hollow strap-on for men with another dildo for double penetration. Very fancy strap-on models can also be attached to the head or hand.
Beginners Guide for Pegging with the Strap-On
We will focus here on anal penetration with the Strap-On since this can be done on both sexes and since anal sex needs even more sensitivity and precautions. But vaginal strap-on sex also needs some practice, since you don't have a direct feeling in the artificial penis.
The fantasy that you can spontaneously start fucking and everything will go smoothly should be discarded as soon as possible. Strap-on sex is not an activity where you strap on the dildo and get going. It requires a lot of preparation. As with all new experiments, a relaxed attitude, humor, and communication are important prerequisites. So, take your time, don't rush, and talk to each other.
Choose the strap-on together with your partner - after all, he/she is supposed to be penetrated with it. For example, you can make it so that the active part chooses the harness, and the passive part the dildo. When you strap on a strap-on for the first time, it feels strange to be wearing a penis - especially if you feel uncomfortable with your body, gender, or sexual identity. Experts recommend walking around at home with the strap-on, moving around with it as you normally would, dancing and stroking it as if you were pleasuring yourself, so you can get a feel for how your movements affect the dildo. Ideally, the man (or passive part) also introduces himself to Strap-On in advance to get used to it. Also, interrupting lovemaking by awkwardly trying on the harness can be very annoying - make sure everything fits and is tight with the right adjustments even before you start foreplay!
By the way, it is not necessary to be extra thorough with hygiene because of anal sex - if you do not have to go to the toilet urgently, there are no feces in the rectal area. But if you want to be on the safe side, you can perform an anal douche beforehand. The special attachments for this are already something like a small anal plug (included in our Anal Play Intro Box). The whole thing can be integrated into the foreplay, especially since a warm bath has a relaxing effect.
For absolute beginners, it is recommended to start in the spoon position for a slow familiarization. The classic doggy style also works quite well, after which you can try the missionary position, where the person lying on the bottom, especially if it is to be anal penetration, is best to put a pillow underneath. And the riding position only at the end, because for this to bring up the strength in the legs and buttocks, but at the same time to be relaxed, needs some practice. On the other hand, the part to be penetrated can also determine for itself how deep the strap-on dildo should penetrate.
When inserting the strap-on dildo, you have to be very careful. Nothing works without lubricant. The material of dildos can also dry out the vagina, so it takes much more lubricant than with a real penis. If the strap-on dildo is to be inserted anally, it is best to use one with a silicone or oil base, as these are much more slippery and also last longer (but be careful with dildos made of silicone - these only tolerate water-based lubricants). It is recommended to put a condom over the dildo to make cleaning easier. This way you don't have to wash off all body fluids immediately afterward. Also, many condoms already come with a lubricant that can help with dryness from the dildo material.
For the beginning, an anal relax spray is also helpful. But please use this only very sparingly, so that the body can still give enough feedback and not everything is numb. It may also be necessary to pre-stretch a little. Depending on the dildo, one or two fingers or a small anal plug are sufficient. Also here please already use proper lubricant! First spread some gel on your hands and massage his/her buttocks in long, sensitive movements. Then slowly approach the anus and spoil him around the opening. Press lightly on the opening several times, as if you were pressing on a bell, and then let go again until the back entrance slowly gives way. Leave your finger or the plug first there without moving it until the body of your partner shows a green light and then push it carefully with small circular movements in and out again...and then it can finally really start...
Every woman needs some training time, as she simply does not yet know the typical male thrusting or circular movements. Many women start out using their hips too much when they thrust. Try to keep your hips straight and only thrust lightly. Since you don't get direct feedback, you may not notice right away if the passive part is in pain. And this should be avoided at all costs, otherwise small cracks may appear, which can have negative consequences. Therefore, permanently pay attention to his/her body language!
Wait for the sphincter to relax and then start inserting the dildo tip slowly into the anus. When the dildo is inserted 3-4 cm, wait a bit so that your partner has time to get used to the feeling. Now you can gently penetrate further and further. Place your hands on his/her hips and push gently until the dildo is fully inserted. Wait a moment so that your partner gets used to the feeling. Then you can continue at a pace that he/she sets. Unlike a real penis, the strap-on is only superficially connected to the body. As a result, you are dependent on your partner's feedback for depth of penetration and frequency of thrusts.
Some people get frustrated with pegging because they can't feel their partner's body react to the pleasure the way you can when you use your hands or mouth. But just watching him/her enjoy it is really hot for many.
By the way, after you get some practice with the strap-on, you'll start to see the dildo as an extension of your body. As soon as you feel connected to your device, a mental feeling of stimulation can set in, which transfers to the body - and thus it can be a real turner to get a blowjob via the strap-on! Your partner can also grab the base of the dildo and press on your pelvis to help stimulate the clitoris and vulva.
Best 15 Strap-ons For Pegging Fun And Lesbian Bumping Pleasure
Have you ever thought about trying pegging or maybe you got a taste for it by reading about it? We present you our best 15 strap-ons for your - maybe first - pegging experience. They are all well suited for beginners, but also advanced peggers who want to try out a new model will surely find what they are looking for.
1. Leather Thong With 3 Latex Dildos
To Get Leather Thong With 3 Latex Dildos
Highlights:
- Adjustable leather thong with three veined latex dildos (one outside, two inside)
- Exciting wearing comfort: The two inner dildos excitingly fill intimate depths
- Perfect for pegging: Thrust with pleasure with the external dildo
- Practical: all three dildos can be removed thanks to snaps
- Exciting: All three dildos in the penis look with pronounced veins and a bulging glans
- Perfect fit: The thong can be adjusted several times on the double waist strap
- High quality: The thong is made of chrome-free split leather
Zado is a German brand that produces high-quality leather BDSM items. Whether beginner: or advanced - the products are just right to bring more variety into your bedroom. For example, with this Triple Harness Strap-On Set. Here's a triple pleasure for you and your partner, because while you're thrusting with the big external dildo, you'll be vaginally and anally stimulated from the inside at the same time. One variant of this is enough for you? No problem, because all three dildos are attached via snaps and are easily removable. The G-string harness is made of soft leather and can be adjusted at the waist with double straps as well as at the string middle part with buckle closures for a perfect fit. It is available in transition sizes S/M and L/XL. Due to the two dildos inside it also has very good additional support. The dildos are made of soft latex* and have a natural shape with pronounced glans or veins.
Note: Latex can cause allergies.
2. Strap-on Harness Set With Shoulder Straps and Natural Dildo
To the 7" strap-on suspender harness set
Highlights:
- Harness with dildo.
- With shoulder strap: Does not slip even during the hottest action.
- Dildo included: The soft surface slides in and the structure stimulates.
- 3 rings are included: So even more dildos or vibrators can be used.
The stylish Strap-On Harness System offers you optimal support through its additional suspenders, which also look really sexy when they are strapped over your breasts. The soft nylon shoulder, waist, and thigh straps are infinitely adjustable to fit most sizes (up to 150 cm waist circumference). In addition, there's an imposing dildo made of silicone, which can be inserted 17.7 cm deep. It's a good 5 cm thick at the base, where it's attached to its suction base by a stretchy silicone ring and four straps. It tapers towards the tip for easy insertion and has a realistic penis shape. The great thing about the set is that three rings in different sizes are included - so you can swap out your strap-on dildos as you, please. The device fits many popular suction cup dildos, especially other models from Dillio as well as King Cock.
3. Strap-on Harness Set With Shoulder Straps and Dildo
To get a strap-on Harness with Shoulder straps and a dildo
Highlights:
- Harness with dildo
- With shoulder strap: Does not slip even during the hottest action
- Dildo included: The soft surface slides in and the structure stimulates
- 3 rings are included: So even more dildos or vibrators can be used
This Strap-On Harness has the same quality and features as the set presented above, only the color differs (Black instead of purple straps and pink lettering). The main difference is limited to the dildo included in the set - this one has a stimulating wave structure instead of the natural shape and is slightly smaller overall. Since the dildos are arbitrarily interchangeable due to the three stretchable rings in different sizes, it's just a matter of taste - do you attach importance to the color, or do you decide on your favorite dildo? Whatever the choice, with Dillio's shoulder strap harness sets you can be sure they'll keep up with the wildest action!
4. Leather Strap-on With Natural Dildo
To the leather strap-on with Natural Dildo
Highlights:
- Leather harness with natural dildo
- Made of high-quality leather: Especially soft and individually adjustable
- With removable natural dildo: For versatile fun for two or alone
Perfect for beginners:inside: the simple G-String Harness is made of pleasantly soft faux leather and can be infinitely adjusted to your size. With the Tite-Lock system, everything stays in place - included is an extra-long jelly dildo with intensely pronounced glans and veining, anatomically well shaped for deep penetration, whether vaginal or anal. It can also be removed and used simply as a toy if you want to have fun with it alone.
5. Strap-on Set with Narrow Dildo For Pegging - For Beginners
About the Strap-On Set "Beginner's Strap-On for Him
Highlights:
- Strap-on with removable dildo
- Wears HER: For anal pleasure from him (pegging) - or lesbian thrusting pleasure
- Multiple size adjustments: For perfect fit and secure fit
- Dildo with suction base removable: For foreplay and solo play - even hands-free
- Replaceable dildo: Simply insert another suitable dildo/vibrator with a suction base using the ring on the strap-on strap at the front
- Stable quality: Withstands even the wildest love play
Your lover is totally into being anally pampered and wants to try pegging? The dildo in the strap-on set "Beginner's Strap-On for Him" has just the right size and shape for his "first time". The clever bend perfectly reaches his P-spot (prostate). The dildo is held firmly in place by a silicone ring and multiple straps, but can also be removed, for example, to get used to it beforehand - possible without the aid of the hand thanks to the suction base. Lesbian couples may prefer a dildo that is more suitable for vaginal penetration - no problem at all: since the straps are adjustable in size, the inserted dildo can also be exchanged.
6. Strap-on Dildo Set For Pegging - For Beginners
About the First Timer's Strap-On Set
Highlights:
- Strap-on with removable dildo
- Wears HER: For anal pleasure from him (pegging) - or lesbian thrusting pleasure
- Multiple size adjustments: For perfect fit and secure fit
- Dildo with suction base removable: For foreplay and solo play - even hands-free
- Replaceable dildo: Simply insert another suitable dildo/vibrator with a suction base using the ring and push buttons on the strap-on belt at the front
- Sturdy quality: Withstands even the wildest love play
Another strap-on set for "first timers" - whether for pegging or vaginal penetration. Simply tighten the strap and you're ready to go. It is also nice that your Ladyparts are not covered as with G-string models. The suction foot dildo is attached via a stretchy O-ring and 4-way nylon strap with snaps, and everything is held in place on the body by a soft neoprene strap. Again, the dildo is removable and replaceable.
7. Strap-on Dildo Incl. Suspenders And Stockings
Highlights:
- Strap-on with removable dildo.
- Straps and stockings included: For a highly erotic look! Suspenders are also removable from the belt
- Wears HER: For anal pampering of him (pegging) - or lesbian thrusting pleasure
- Strap multiple sizes adjustable: And with reinforced back for perfect fit and secure fit
- Dildo with suction base removable: For foreplay and solo play - even hands-free
- Dildo replaceable: Simply insert another suitable dildo/vibrator with the suction base at the strap-on strap at the front using the ring and the push buttons
- Sturdy quality: Withstands even the wildest love play
Another strap-on set from the Fetish Fantasy series. As with the other products in the series, the dildo with a suction base can also be used separately and is attached to the harness with a ring and press stud strap. This dildo has an extra plump head and the strap-on belt has a wide back in hot lacquer look to ensure an even firmer hold. But the special thing is that it is also a suspender belt. Suspender straps and stockings made of seductive fishnet fabric with lace borders are included. Of course, you can also remove the holders if you do not want them.
8. Strap-on Harness With Removable Dildo
Highlights:
- Strap-on with removable dildo
- Wears HER: For anal pleasure from him (pegging) - or for lesbian thrusting pleasure.
- Multi-size adjustable: for a perfectly comfortable fit and secure fit.
- Sensitive dildo: Ideally curved and with a narrow tapered tip perfect for anal first encounters.
- Dildo with suction base removable: For foreplay and solo play - even hands-free.
- Replaceable dildo: Simply insert another matching dildo/vibrator with a suction base using the ring on the strap-on strap at the front.
- Sturdy quality: It Withstands even the wildest love play.
The Limited Edition series of Fetish Fantasy has a wide range of products to dive into the fetish world. One of them is "The Pegger", the ideal strap-on dildo for your first pegging experience. Not intimidatingly large, but big enough for sensational effect - the narrowing tip is easy to insert and the jelly dildo is cleverly curved to optimally penetrate the P-spot. Of course, you can also use it for vaginal intercourse. He is also solo playable because you can take him out. The sturdy strap can be comfortably adjusted and the resting surface is pleasantly plush and padded. Other dildos or vibrators with suction bases also fit into the harness.
9. Strap on String With Dildo and Vibro Bullet
To the "Vibrating Strap-On For Him"
Highlights:
- Strap-on thong with removable dildo including Vibro-bullet
- For strap-on beginners and lovers: Enjoy pegging to perfection (and lesbian thrusting pleasures).
- Special dildo design: ideally curved and with a narrow tapered tip perfect for stimulating his anal P-spot (prostate)
- Removable dildo with suction base: for foreplay and solo play - even hands-free.
- Tingling vibration: Enclosed Vibro-bullet can be placed in the front of the strap-on thong - for exciting additional stimulation.
- Strap-on thong with stretch bands: Fits sizes S to L
- Stable quality: Withstands even the wildest love play
Is the pure penetration already too dull? Then how about this: The dildo in this set is very similar to the "Pegger" - black, slightly curved, and with a tapered P-spot end. It simply slips into the skimpy G-string harness without much strapping, easily adjusting to your shapes with its durable elastic bands. The small, fine detail is a small pocket in the front of the panties, in which the included, infinitely adjustable vibration unit is stowed - results in super exciting stimulation for both because the vibration is transferred to the dildo!
10. Strap-on Dildo Set With Vibro bullet
About the "Vibrating Strap-On Set
Highlights:
- Strap-on with removable dildo including Vibro-bullet
- For strap-on beginners and lovers: Enjoy lesbian thrusting pleasures and pegging
- Multiple size adjustments: for perfect fit and secure fit
- Dildo with suction base removable: For foreplay and solo play - even hands-free
- Replaceable dildo: Simply insert another matching dildo/vibrator with a suction base using the ring on the strap-on strap at the front
- Tingling vibration: You can place the enclosed Vibro bullet in the front of the strap - for exciting additional stimulation
- Stable quality: Withstands even the wildest love play
This harness in jockstrap design also has an extra compartment in its plush velvety front, where you can place the included multi-speed Vibro bullet and get clitoral pampering during your role exchange. Since it's conveniently controlled with a 1-button operation, you can also turn it on to provide an extra kick just before the climax. The harness adapts perfectly to your needs with the length-adjustable nylon straps. The flexible dildo with exciting wavy structure is of course also removable, sticks with the suction foot on all smooth surfaces for hot freehand rides, and can be replaced in the harness by other booze foot dildos.
11. Strap-on Dildo Kit With 2 Interchangeable Dildos
About the "Strap-On Kit for Playgirls
Highlights:
- Strap-on with 2 dildos and 2 attachment rings. Dildos and rings are of different sizes and interchangeable.
- Wears HER: To spoil her/him (pegging).
- Size adjustable and stretchy: For perfect fit and secure fit! Adjustable hip circumference up to max. 120 cm, stretchable thigh circumference up to max. 72 cm
- Dildos with suction bases can also be used separately: For foreplay and solo play - even hands-free.
- Both dildos in penis look: with pronounced glans and veining for the perfect intimate massage
- Dildos interchangeable: Simply open the push buttons on the front of the strap-on belt and insert another matching dildo/vibrator with a suction base into the respective matching retaining ring.
- Stable quality: Withstands even the wildest love play
For more variety, the "Strap-On Kit for Playgirls" comes with two different-sized dildos. Both are designed with a realistic penis look, yet different - just like in nature. The strap-on harness with delicate lace inserts in a sexy burlesque look is adjustable and stretchable to fit most sizes. The dildos are also attached to the straps with rings and snaps, but the rings are metal and therefore not stretchable. You can also use other booze dildos, but they should have correspondingly suitable sizes (Up to max. 4.5 cm or 5.3 cm diameter).
12. Strap-on thong in Leo Look
To the "Deluxe Strap-On Leopard Frenzy"
Highlights:
- The Strap-on thong is suitable for almost any dildo/vibrator with a stand/suction base (not included).
- Size-adjustable thong in leo look: For a perfect, tight fit without slipping, the thong circumference is adjustable from 56 cm to 127 cm - that corresponds to size S to L
- Comfortable to wear: Thanks to soft material and wide straps
- For strap-on beginners: inside and lovers:inside: Enjoy lesbian thrusting pleasures and pegging
- Easy handling: Push buttons open, insert vibrator/dildo into the front ring (Ø 4,5 cm), push buttons closed
- Sturdy quality: withstands even the wildest love play
Do you already own a favorite suction or stand dildo or the models from the sets do not quite say to you? No problem, of course, you can also buy strap-ons without accessories, such as this cheeky part in the hip leo look. The metal fastening ring has a diameter of 4.5 cm and is compatible with all correspondingly large dildos with a foot part. The wide straps can be comfortably adjusted up to size L and the soft material is very comfortable to wear. Clean this strap-on with mild detergent by hand.
13. Comfort Strap With Soft Touch Padding
About the Comfy Body Dock Strap-On Harness
Highlights:
- Strap-on for almost any dildo/vibrator with a suction base (not included).
- For strap-on beginners and lovers: Enjoy lesbian thrusting pleasures and pegging.
- Easy to use: put on strap-on harness, lash to fit, and fix/dock suction base dildo/vibrator to the front of the body plate
- Adjustable straps: For a perfect, tight fit without slipping
- Comfortable to wear: The anatomically shaped, softly padded body plate fits perfectly and distributes pressure evenly over the pelvic area, avoiding punctual uncomfortable pressure
- Perfect impact pleasure: The dildo/vibrator fixed on the body plate is held in position at the optimal penetration angle
- Sturdy quality: Withstands even the wildest love play
This strap-on works with a completely new, patented push-and-play system that takes strap-on play to a whole new level! No more fiddling with attaching the dildo - it's changed in just a few seconds. The circular dildo dock holds silicone suction cup dildos in place bombproof by creating a vacuum. Due to the concave curvature, it adapts to the contours of the body and distributes the impact pressure evenly over the pelvic area. This reduces the point pressure that often occurs with conventional straps. The system can be used with any suction cup toy whose base does not exceed the dimensions of the docking station. The receiving plate of the "Comfy Body Dock Strap-On Harness" is integrated into a comfortable waist belt in a jockstrap design and additionally padded to rest very gently on the mons veneris. The harness is equipped with durable nylon straps and plastic adjusters for waist size up to 137 cm.
14. Leather Strap-on With Adjustable Waist Belt
To strap-on leather with an adjustable waist belt
Highlights:
- The strap-on leather waist belt fits almost any dildo/vibrator with a stand/suction base (not included).
- Size adjustable leather straps: For perfect tight fit without slipping
- Comfortable to wear: Thanks to wide adjustable straps and optimally shaped front plate
- For strap-on beginners: inside and lovers:inside: Enjoy lesbian thrusting pleasures and pegging
- Easy handling: Push buttons open, insert vibrator/dildo with the help of the front rings, push buttons closed
- Sturdy quality: withstands even the wildest love play
Another gem for leather lovers: inside from the house Zado. The natural material leather is very high quality and cuddly, and there are three different sizes to choose from. In addition, you can adjust the straps many times, so that everything sits securely and tightly, even if it comes to violent action during the act. The two metal front rings are 4 cm and 5 cm in diameter, and the hip good in jockstrap design is designed with more rivets and ring inserts made of metal. Just insert the dildo or vibrator of your choice, close the snaps and you're ready to go.
15. Leather Strap-on With Latex Dildo
To the leather strap-on with latex dildo
Highlights:
- Deluxe Strap-On Leather Thong with Firm Latex Dildo
- BDSM strap-on thong with adjustable side straps
- Strap-on dildo with leather briefs for exciting pegging/ BDSM role play
The annoying attachment of the dildo is not necessary with this thong made of high-quality split leather (cow), because the penis replacement made of latex (caution for allergies) is already firmly integrated here. With 15 x 3.5 cm, the dildo in natural look has the optimal size for pegging, but can of course also be used for vaginal penetration. The side straps can be adjusted to fit sizes S-L. Whether for hot role reversal in the bedroom at home or the next fetish party - this noble part can be seen everywhere.
Conclusion about the strap-ons
As with all things, choosing a strap-on is a matter of personal taste, your individual preferences, and perhaps different occasions - are you a heterosexual or homosexual couple, or is it about anal or vaginal intercourse? Do you want to try pegging for the first time or are you looking for a fetish item for the next party? These are all points that influence your choice. However, you can get different strap-ons for different moods and purposes. As with clothing, you need to try the harness on once, and maybe a certain brand fits your figure better than another. If it doesn't work right off the bat, that's no big deal. As mentioned at the beginning, you have to get used to it, take your time, experiment, and approach it with humor and a relaxed attitude. If you want to know more about the strap-ons presented here, take a look at our store.
